REGARDING RECENT TRAGEDIES, COPING WITH RELATED DISTRESS AND/OR EXPLAINING THEM TO CHILDREN, PLEASE CHECK OUT THE FOLLOWING ARTICLES:
THESE ARE SOME OF THE BOOKS, WEBSITES, OR RESOURCES I RECOMMEND BY TOPIC... in no particular order and updated often:
I welcome your suggestions if you know of something to share...
Stress Management and Getting Your Act Together
Borysenko, Joan. Inner Peace for Busy People. Hay House, 2003.
Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness & Meditation in Everyday Life. Hyperion, 1994.
Ruiz, Don Miguel. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. Amber-Allen, 1996.
Thich Nhat Hanh. The Miracle of Mindfulenss: A Manual on Meditation. Beacon Press.
Relationships , Partnerships, Sexuality and Marriage
Beattie, Melodie. Codependent No More. How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. Hazelden, 2003.
Gottman, John, et al. The Relationship Cure: A 5-Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family and Friendships. Clarkson Potter, 2002.
Gottman, John, et al. . The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Clarkson Potter, 2000.
Morin, Jack. The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment. Harper Collins Publishers, 1996.
Wachtel, Ellen. We Love Each Other, But... St. Martin's Press, 1999.
Families / Divorce / Remarriage / Blending Families
Brown, Laurene Krasny, and Brown, Marc. Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families. Little, Brown and Company, 1986.
Carnes, Patrick. The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships. Health Communications, Inc. 1997.
Lansky, Vicki. It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear. Book Peddlers, 1998.
McGhee, Christina. Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids. Penguin Publishing Group, 2010.
Pedro-Carroll, Joanne. Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce. Penguin Publishing Group, 2010.
Ricci, Isolina. Mom's House, Dad's House: Making Two Homes for Your Child. Fireside, 1997.
Parenting / Discipline / Relationships with Children
Cline, F. & Fay, J. Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility. Tyndale House Publishers, 2006.
Cohen-Sandler, R. "Trust me, Mom - Everyone Else is Going!" The New Rules for Mothering Adolescent Girls: Penguin Books, 2002.
Cohen-Sandler, R, & Silver, M. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You:!" A New Understanding of the Mother- Daughter Conflict: Surviving and Thriving
During Your Daughter's Teenage Years. Penguin, 1999.
Fay, J., & Cline, F. Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood. Tyndale House Publishers, 2006.
Fay, J., Cline, F., & Sornson, B. Meeting the Challenge: Using Love and Logic to Help Children Develop Attention and Behavior Skills. The Love and Logic Press, 2000.
Kabat-Zinn, M & J. Everday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting. Hyperion, 1997.
Nelson, Jane, Glenn, H.Stephen, & Lott, Lynn. Positive Discipline A-->Z: 1001 Solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems. Clarkson Potter, 2007.
Wolf, Anthony E. Get Out Of My Life, But First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager.
Farrar, Strauss & Giroux, 1999.
Wolf, Anthony E. It's not Fair: Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night!: A Guide to the Tougher Parts of Parenting.
Farrar, Strauss & GIroux, 1999.
Grief and Loss / Death and Dying
Atkins, Martha Jo. Signposts of Dying: What You Need to Know. Martha Jo Atkins, LLC, 2016.
Callanan, M., and Kelly, P. Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying. Bantam Books, 1992.
Colgrove, M., BLoomfield, H.H., & McWilliams, P. How to Survive the Loss of a Love. Prelude Press. 1992.
Frankl, Victor E. Man's Search for Meaning. 1959.
Levine, Stephen. Healing into Life and Death. Anchor Books, Doubleday, 1987.
McCracken, A., & Semel, M. A Broken Heart Still Beats: After Your Child Dies. Hazelton, 1998.
Sittser, Gerald L. A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss. Zondervan Publishing House (a division of Harper Collins). 1995.
Smith, Harold Ivan. A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss While Others are Celebrating. Beacon Hill Press, 1999.
Talbot, Kay. What Forever Means After the Death of a Child: Transcending the Trauma, Living with the Loss. Brunner-Routledge, 2002.
Wolfelt, Alan D. Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart. Companion Press, 2004.
Grief and Loss: For and Regarding Children and Youth
Dower, Laura. I Will Remember You: A Guidebook Through Grief for Teens. Scholastic, 2001.
Fitzgerald, Helen. The Grieving Teen: A Guide for Teenagers and Their Friends. Touchstone, 2000.
Grollman, Earl. Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers: How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love. Beacon, 1993.
Heegaard, Marge. When Someone Very Special Dies: Children Can Learn To Cope With Grief. Woodland Press, 1996.
Heegard, Marge. When Something Terrible Happens: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief. Woodland Press, 1996.
Holmes, M.M. A Terrible Thing Happened. Magination Press, 2000. (Appropriate for any kind of tragedy)
Hughes, Lynne B. You are Not Alone: Teens Talk about Life after the Loss of a Parent. Scholastic, 2005.
Manning, Connie. I Know Someone Who Died Coloring Book. In-Sight Books, Inc., 2009.
Manning, Doug. Lean on Me Gently: Helping the Grieving Child. In-Sight Books, Inc., 2010.
McCue, K. How to Help Children Through A Parent's Serious Illness. St Martin's Griffin, 1994.
Mellonie, B., & Ingpen, R. Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way to Explain Death to Children. Random House, 1983.
Mundy, Michaelene. Sad Isn't Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss. One Caring Place, 1998.
Romain, T. What on Earth Can You Do When Someone Dies? Free Spirit Publishing, 1999.
Rubel, Barbara. But I Didn't Say Goodbye: For Parents and Professionals Helping Child Suicide Survivors. Griefwork Center, Inc., 2000.
Samuel-Traisman, Enid. Fire in my Heart, Ice in my Veins: A Journal for Teenagers Experiencing Loss. Centering Corporation, 1992.
Wolfelt. Alan D. Healing Your Grieving Heart: For Kids: 100 Practical Ideas. Companion Press, 2001.
Wolfelt. Alan D. Healing Your Grieving Heart: For Teens: 100 Practical Ideas. Companion Press, 2001.
IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW NEEDS HELP: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) Suicide Prevention Lifeline ------ > en Espanol 1-888-628-9454
Fine, Carla. No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One. Clarkson Potter/ Ten Speed/ Harmony, 1999.
Jamison, Kay Redfield. Night Falls Fast: Understanding Suicide. Vintage Books, 1999.
Lukas, Christopher, & Seiden, Henry M. Silent Grief: Living in the Wake of Suicide. (Revised Edition) Kingsley, Jessica Publishers, 2007.
Smolin, Ann, & Guinan, John. Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One. Touchstone, 1993.
Chronic and/or Serious Illness
Cancer diagnosis: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/why-me.aspx
Supporting a loved one: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/why-me.aspx
Kohlenberg, S. Sammy's Mommy Has Cancer. Magination Press, 1993.
Mills, Joyce C. Little Tree: A Story for Children with Serious Medical Problems. Magination Press, 1992.
Peterkin, Allan. What About Me? When Brothers and Sisters Get Sick. Magination Press, 1992.
Social Media / Influence, Issues, Implications
How Heavy Use of Social Media Is Linked to Mental Illness. Article: https://www.economist.com/graphic-detail/2018/05/18
The Impact of Social Media on Children, Adolescents, and Families. Article: http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/127/4/800
Brain, Behavior & Media. Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-media-psychology-effect/201203/brain-behavior-and-media
Mood Disorders /Mental Illness
Burns, David D. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. Clinically Proven Drug-free Treatment for Depression. HarperCollins, 1980.
Burns, Davd D. The Feeling Good Handbook. Plume, 1990.
Fieve, Ronald R. Bipolar II: The Essential Guide to Recognize and Treat the Mood Swings of this ...Common Disorder. Rodale, Inc., 2006.
Greenberger, Dennis, and Padesky, Christine A. Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think.
Hyman, Bruce M., and Pedrick, Cherry. The OCD Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.
Jamison, Kay Redfield. Touched with Fire: Manic-Depressive Illness and the Artistic Temperament. Free Press, 1993.
Jamison, Kay Redfield. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness. Vintage Books, 1995.
Miklowitz, David J. The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide: What You and Your Family Need to Know. The Guilford Press, 2002.
Mondimore, Francis Mark. Bipolar Disorder: A Guide for Patients and Families. Johns Hopkins University Press, 1999.
Pittman, C.M. & Karle, E.M. (2015) Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worry.
Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
OCD: www.peaceofmind.com Peace of Mind Foundation provides education, treatment and resources for patients and families affected
by Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
psychoeducation.org "Treating the Mood Spectrum"
www.FeelingGood.com David Burns' website
Serious Mental Illness: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/serious-mental-illness.aspx
Behary, Wendy T. Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving & Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. New Harbinger, 2008.
Carnes, Patrick. The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships. Health Communications, Inc. 1997.
Carter, Steven, and Sokol, Julia. Help! I'm in Love with a Narcissist. M. Evans & Company, 2005.
Kreisman, Jerold J., and Straus, Hal. I Hate You - Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality Disorder. Penguin, 2010.
Mason, Paul T., and Kreger, Randi. Stop Walking on Eggshells, 2nd ed.: Taking Your Life Back when Someone you Care About has Borderline
Personality Disorder. New Harbinger, 2010.
Stout, Martha. The Sociopath Next Door. Clarkson Potter, 2006.
Substance Abuse / Chemical Dependency / Addiction / Recovery
Understanding alcohol use disorders and their treatment: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/alcohol-disorders.aspx
Beattie, Melody. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. Hazelden Publishing, 2003.
Burgess, Beth. The Recovery Formula: An Addict's Guide to Getting Clean and Sober. Eightball Publishing, 2012.
Carnes, Patrick. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Hazelden Publishing, 2001.
Grace, Annie. This Naked Brain: Control Alcohol. Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life. Avery, an Imprint of Penguin
Random House, 2018.
Vigna, Judith. I Wish Daddy Didn't Drink So Much. Albert Whitman & Company, 1988
For local help / support / referral: *www.sacada.org www.recoverytexas.org www.riserecovery.org
*San Antonio Council on Alcohol & Drug Awareness (Addiction & Recovery Support) 210-225-4741
Food / Overeating / Weight Management
Danowski, Debbie. The Overeater's Journal: Exercises for the Heart, Mind & Soul. Hazelden, 2004.
Koenig, Karen R, The Rules of "Normal Eating": A Commonsense Approach for Dieters, Overeaters, Undereaters, Emotional Eaters, and
Everyone In Between!. Gurze Books, 2005.
Roth, Geneen. Feeding the Hungry Heart: The Experience of Emotional Eating. Penguin Press, 1993.
Roth, Geneen. When Food is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy. Penguin Books, 1991.
Roth, Geneen. When You Eat at the Refigerator, Pull Up a Chair: 50 Ways to Feel Thin, Gorgeous, and Happy (When You Feel Anything But). Hyperion, 1998.
Wansink, Brian. Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think. Bantam Books, 2006.
Trauma / Disaster / Crisis
Levine, Peter A. Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. North Atlantic Books, 1997.
Scaer, Robert C. The Body Bears the Burden: Trauma, Dissociation, and Disease. Haworth Medical Press, 2001.
van der Kolk. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin, 2014.
For local help / Military Specific Trauma Program: Mission Resiliency, Laurel Ridge Treatment Center 210-491-3591, 800-624-7975
To report child or elder abuse, call 1-800- 252-5400, or report online at http://www.txabusehotline.org
San Antonio Rape Crisis Center. rapecrisis.com 210-349-7273
www.rainn.org. Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. National Sexual Assault Hotline. 800-656-HOPE (4673), 24/7.
Bass, Ellen, and Davis, Laura. The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Sexual Abuse. Harper Collins, 2008.
Blume, E. Sue. Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and its Aftereffects in Women. Random House, 1998.
Davis, Laura. Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love is a Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse. Harper Collins, 1991.
Engel, Beverly. The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Random House, 1990.
Hunter, Mic. Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse. Random House, 1991.
Miller, Alice. The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self. Basic Books, 1996.
Perry, Bruce, and Szalavitz, Maia. The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook: What Traumatized Children can Teach Us about Loss, Love, and Healing. Basic Books, 2007.
Kids and Adults with Differences / Neurodiversity
Informative Documentaries: Loving Lampposts: Living Autistic. http://lovinglamppostsmovie.com
See also: templegrandin.com and http://fhautism.com/books-and-resources for extensive listing
Grandin, Temple. The Way I See It (2nd Edition, Expanded): A Personal Look at Autism and Asperger's. Future Horizons, Inc., 2011.
See also: "Temple Grandin" - the motion picture (available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble)
Hallowell, Edward M., and Raney, John J. Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood through
Adulthood. Touchstone, 1994.
Hallowell, Edward M., and Raney, John J. Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder . Random House, 1995.
Higashida, Naoki., with KA Yoshida and David Mitchell, Translators. The Reason I Jump: The Inner Voice of a Thirteen Year Old Boy with Autism.
Random House, 2013.
Myers, Jennifer McIlwee. How to Teach Life Skills to Kids with Autism or Asperger's. Future Horizons, Inc., 2010.
Notbohm, Ellen, Zysk, Veronica (Editor). Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew: Updated and Expanded Version. Future Horizons, Inc., 2012.
Pera, Gina. Is It You, Me, or Adult ADD? Stopping the Roller Coaster when Someone You Love has Attention Deficit Disorder. 1201 Alarm Press, 2008.
Robison, John Elder. Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's. Crown Publishing Group, 2008.
Sicile-Kira, Chantal. Autism Spectrum Disorder: The Complete Guide to Understanding Autism. Penguin Publishing Group, 2014.
Gender Diversity and Transgender Identity: http://www.apadivisions.org/division-44/resources/advocacy/transgender-children.pdf
Terminology/ Understanding: https://www.genderspectrum.org/quick-links/understanding-gender/
Education/ Advocacy: community.pflag.org PFLAG (Parents, Friends & Family of Lesbians and Gays) is the organization
for parents, families, allies, and LGBTQ people united for equality
Grever, C. & Bowman, D. When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate's Recovery Manual. 2008, Taylor & Francis.
Kort, Joe. 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives. Alyson Books.
LaSala, Michael C. Coming Out, Coming Home: Helping Families Adjust to a Gay or Lesbian Child. Columbia University Press, 2010.
McNaught, Brian. Now That I'm Out, What do I Do? : Thoughts on Living Deliberately. St. Martin's Press, 1998.
Rudacille, Deborah. The Riddle of Gender: Science, Activism, and Transgender Rights. Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group, 2006.
*Patterson, Charlotte J. and Anthony R. D’Augelli. Handbook of Psychology and Sexual Orientation. Oxford University Press, 2012.
Aging & GLBT Populations: http://www.apadivisions.org/division-44/resources/advocacy/aging-bibliography.pdf
College and University Support & Resources: http://www.affordablecolleges.com/resources/lgbtq-college-resources
Parent and Family Support: www.anyoneandeveryone.com For more information about this documentary: www.anyoneandeveryone.com/about.html
www.transthemovie.com/about Education & information about Transsexualism
Aging / Caregiving
Memory Impairment/ Dementia: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/senior-forgetfulness.aspx
For information on a variety of topics related to psychology, mental health, and emotional well-being, visit www.apa.org/helpcenter and choose the tab entitled “Psychology Help Center.” This website is published by the American Psychological Association and updated frequently. Several of the links are included by topic in this resource list.
Photographs by Lauren Rathbun
Video by Stephanie King